Toxic Monarchy from Gideon to Rehoboam

I’ve written elsewhere on “toxic masculinity” in Proverbs. I’ve also suggested that Proverbs concludes with a warning against Solomon’s foolishness in multiplying wives. I didn’t apply the term “toxic masculinity” to the folly that Solomon committed, but it might be appropriate. Male rulers prove themselves super-powerful (they think) by a large collection of wives.

To see how this is revealed in Scripture, let’s start with David.

First Samuel 25 is a story of David set between his two refusals to take Saul’s life in chapters 24 and 26. These were admirable actions. But the story of Nabal, Abigail, and David is more ambiguous.

Don’t Waste Your Slavery

But one of the worst results of being a slave and being forced to do things is that when there is no one to force you any more you find you have almost lost the power of forcing yourself.
C.S. Lewis, The Horse and His Boy

It is no secret that I love Lewis as a Christian writer and especially love the fictional story, The Horse and His Boy. Among other reasons for appreciating the book, I found that it seems to use the themes in the message of Proverbs to illustrate the same truths about maturity and wisdom.

My conversation about the book with my friend Andrew Isker is embedded at the bottom of this post for you, if you haven’t watched it already.

But, as much as I loved the book, I want to disagree with the quotation above. Or at least nuance it.

The GodArchy Podcast Interview

I am terribly tardy in telling you that I had the honor of being on the GodArchy podcast to talk about my book. Michael Maharrey was a gracious host and interviewer. I had a lot of fun! I hope we can talk again some time.

Audio: Interview on Canon Calls Podcast

I had a great time talking to Jake McAtee about my book Solomon Says. You can subscribe to the podcast to hear much more from Canon. I am grateful for the opportunity to discuss what I have learned about Proverbs!

I also appreciate this great image-quote!

Individualism is not Selfishness

People commonly oppose something they call “individualism” against another thing they call “collectivism.” Either they insist these must be “balanced” or else they champion one at the expense of the other.

There are concrete situations where one must make a decision that seems like you are dealing with these competing values of this sort. If a homeless family asks you for some money, and you give it to them, that could be understood as you helping out more people than one (the family) at the expense of one (yourself). But this doesn’t strike me as a plausible justification for thinking in these general terms.

Video: How the Bible Teaches Us to Train Our Selves

So a Bible conference in the age of Covid means talking to my phone!

I want to thank the Men’s Theology Forum for inviting me to speak to them!

Do You Trust God to Praise You?

I remember (distantly, vaguely) being taught to ride a bicycle as a young child. My parents shouldered the burden of teaching me. I am glad I don’t remember in detail all the whining they had to put up with or the extra encouraging and cajoling they had to practice to get it to happen.

Don’t misunderstand. I desperately wanted to ride a bike, at least in theory. One of the few childhood tantrums I remember was over getting a bike. But getting one is not the same as being able to use a bicycle. And wanting to learn to ride feels different as a distant desire than it feels when you are wobbling on the unsteady seat, realizing that your father is about to remove his hands that are holding you up. You are going to have to pedal, steer, and stay upright on your own.

Self-Control Is Self-Training

One of the most basic abilities a person must possess to have a chance of working with others and being productive is “self-control.” “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls” (Proverbs 25:28). According to Luke, the need for self-control was a basic feature of the Apostle Paul’s preaching (see Acts 24:25).

While my book is about what SOLOMON SAYS (Amazon, Kindle), sometimes it might be helpful to consider what his father, King David, sang. And what he might have taught Solomon to sing. For example, God speaks through King David:

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you. Be not like a horse or a mule, without understanding, which must be curbed with bit and bridle, or it will not stay near you.
Psalm 32:8–9 ESV

Lady Wisdom & King Lemuel’s Mother

Proverbs is made up of books—seven by my count. Though some split it in two, I think all of Proverbs 31 is an oracle by King Lemuel’s mother warning him about women and drink and encouraging him to value a godly wife.

I am not the only reader who has noticed that the books of Proverbs seem to begin and end on a similar not. Proverbs 1-9 is features exhortation to respond to the invitation of Lady Wisdom and spurn the seductions of Lady Folly, which parallels the exhortation to be faithful to the wife of one’s youth and resist the temptations of the adulterous.

Judges is About Needing God as King, not Man

The book of Judges is not a lesson in how Israel needed a king. It is the opposite.

I’m not saying that Judges rules out the possibility that a righteous king could have helped with some of Israel’s problems. Moses had allowed that the tribes of Israel might choose a king in the future, and gave them God’s rules for a king (Deuteronomy 17:14-20).

But Judges isn’t a story about Israelites refusing a king. It is a story about attempts to exalt a man as king and the catastrophic results of those attempts. From the story of Gideon onward, Judges is a history of rulers who began toying with dynastic ambitions. Then the book ends with with two horrific stories. In those stories we meet the statement, “In those days there was no king in Israel. Everyone did what was right in his own eyes” (Judges 17:6; 19:25 ESV; see also 18:1; 19:1). But those stories are about degenerate Levites and come at the end of a history of God stopping his chosen judges from becoming kings.